Putting Christ back into counseling and counseling back into the church.
Introduction. Boy, I wish I realized these principles and cautions in order to help promote healthy conversations when I was in my 20s. I wish I could say I came up with these because I saw the need for improvement in my own relationships (and there certainly was a need!). Rather, these 3 principles for … Read more
“Hey, Scott, You’re Doing It Wrong.” Thank God that we can learn big lessons from seemingly insignificant events that occur in our daily lives. One of the simplest, but most impactful examples for me happened on most weekdays. My wife, then a stay-at-home mom, with two young toddlers and me, a 7am – 5pm, Mon-Fri … Read more
I would like to start with a fictional, but very realistic, scenario. Imagine: My wife and I meet at a local Waffle House to discuss our annual family vacation plans. Kid-free, plus the privacy of a booth at 2:30 pm, all is quiet and we can focus. Besides, Waffle House serves up our favorite guilty … Read more
Listen to these two versions of the same brief conversation. The same words are uttered, but with two very different meanings and receptions. In the evening, my wife comes into my home office and politely reminds me, “Trash pickup is tomorrow morning, honey.” We both know by our relational routines and history together that this … Read more
“Sticks and stones may break my bones, but words will never hurt me,” is a lie we tell ourselves and the little ones in our lives. When was the last time you thought of your word choice? Especially with those we cherish? We carefully choose our words with new clients more than with our loved … Read more